Sep 25

Positive selfies – why we all need them!

I saw something at a school I was presenting at the other week. It was so great I had to share it here – Positive Selfies!

They had posters everywhere about Posotive Selfies. Love it. A simple idea really. Instead of sexting or sharing photos of friends not look their best for fun or even cyber-bullying by posting photos of others with nasty comments, just take a photo of you, looking like you. That’s it.

I love this for a couple of reasons, one is body image which I’ll talk more about below. The other is that the school isn’t trying an ‘abstinence’ approach to technology use. Telling teenagers not to take photos and post online isn’t going to work. If we stop it happening at school, it will happen at 3:30 when the bell rings. Embrace the technology I say :0) . Great idea!

Back to the body image stuff – the school seemed to be running ‘Positive Selfies’ as a competition. So you could enter your selfie photo online and the one that looked most like you in real-life would win an iTunes vouchers.

i was only at the school for a day (it’s in a country town), but at recess and lunch I saw lots of phones out and lots of photos being taken. How cool, right?

So here’s my thoughts, when was the last time we modelled this to our kids? I think as women we know the importance of having positive body image particularly around our kids but how is that translating to what we do online? Do we vet all the pics our kids want to post? Do we say “no way you’re posting that, look at my tummy in that one! Delete!!” ??

I know I have. It’s hard not to, right? Especially as we likely have more insight in to how the online world works than they do. And that means we have a sense of who will see that photo…

So from now on I’m going to ask a different question when someone posts a photo of me online. I’m going to ask: Who’s going to see this? Am I ok with the audience?

Letting our kids know that it’s the ‘who-sees-it’ that we are concerned about, rather than whether our chins are showing to their best advantage should mean I can demonstrate that sharing online means thinking more about the ‘audience’ and less about me. Cos I’m ok as I am thanks!

And just cos I don’t love a photo – which is just one moment in time – doesn’t mean the memory that we are sharing or the event or the people we are with are unimportant. Photos are really our memories these days and I want to have lots of great ones once i’m old and grey ;0)

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Sep 01

Taking photos of your kids at school events

How is your week going? cold and rainy here with a side of nasty cold to top it off. But I didn’t log in to chat about my head (nasty, painful, thanks for asking). I actually wanted to write about a question that’s come up with a few parents and different schools lately – Is it ok to take photos of my child at school and put them on Facebook for the family to see?

Seems simple enough – yes, your child, your photos, go right ahead.  But of course it’s difficult because school events usually involve many, many, well, school children. Your beautiful darling may be dancing up a storm, but it’s likely that so are 24 other darlings right next them on stage.

So your photo that showcases their incomparable talent also shows 3 or 5 or 20 other kids too. And you probably didn’t ask each of their parents if you can post the pic online.

And that’s where the challenge begins!  We do want to capture those never to be repeated (except at next  year’s concert) moments, so here are my suggestions to make sure you can keep in with the mums at school…

  • Think about cyber safety – does the pic show the school name or location or any details about any child? If they are wearing school uniform it probably does – so zoom out a bit so it can’t be read in the photo.
  • If your darling has their photo take with with their BFF and you don’t want to cut them out (how rude!), just ask  their mum or dad ‘I’m putting this on Facebook to show the grandparents – ok?’ It’s just good manners!
  • If you have a photo you absolutely need to share ( I get it, sometimes our kids are just hilarious devine), use a free app like Skitch to blur the faces of those other kids. Bonus: your child’s face is the main feature of the photo now!
  • And finally, think before you share. Where are you posting that photo? Consider who will see it and whether you are ok with that audience :0)

For me, I think this stuff is important because our kids have online profiles from a young age, before birth in some cases with all the ultrasound photos out there…So we have responsibility for their online footprint just as much as our own, and with a little thought we can make sure we aren’t over sharing other children’s photos either.

Do you post photos of your kids online?  Let us know what you do or don’t do…

 

 

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