I read an article last week (can’t find it now Im afraid!) but it was about developing indepencece in our children, from a young age. Not physical independence. I don’t mean letting 5 year olds off on their own in strange city!
It was more about helping our kids to take responsiblity for their ativities and events.
In this article, the children were aged 9 and 10, so about grades 3 or 4 in the Aussie school system.
Their parents had taught them how to use the family calendar in the kitchen to schedule plans with friends. These kids were quoted as commenting that they like that they could make these decisions themselves. And parents said they liked that their kids asked them if they could have a lift to the friends house or wherever. Less taxi-driver and more parent-like!
I wonder if your kids could manage this? My step-kids were put onto our digital family calendar when they were about 14 and 16. They used it to see if they could ask for a lift somewhere, or whether we’d be home to cook them dinner!
Obviously there’s a big difference between a 10-year-old and a 16-year-old…
But I do like the idea of starting children off with some responsiblity and decision-making power at a primary school age – as long as they are still supervised and supported of course!
What do you think? Could your kids cope with making their own appointments with friends, with the dentist, with Grandma?